24 Aug Your Stories: Laura learns body confidence for her daughters
A little while ago, I asked you to start sharing your stories in hopes of us learning to empower one another. The world can seem ridiculously lonely, especially when the voice inside your head keeps telling you that you can’t. The #BMKBucketList is my way of taking control of my insecurities and changing my biggest “I can’t” to “I will.” But now, I’d like to chat about you and what your experience with body positivity is. Starting this conversation proves that we all have a war going on inside our heads but with a little motivation, we can roar back at the negativity and learn to love and embrace our bodies.
This week, we’re chatting to Laura from Harassed Mom. When I asked her why she wanted to be part of this challenge, she said, “I have always struggled with my body image and I have always been around 10 kg overweight. Like most of us, it fluctuated over the years depending on my emotional state. After Emma (my 4th and final child) I decided it was time to get my body back and take control of my relationship with food. I could no longer hide behind pregnancies and breastfeeding. It has been almost a year long journey so far but I can honestly say I am at a point where I can look in the mirror and be ok with what I see. I have two daughters and every now and then I see my 12-year-old checking herself out in the mirror. My mom was a big part of why I had the relationship that I did with food and my body and I am trying to not do that with my kids. I want them to be happy in their own skin regardless of what size and shape they are.”
If you’d like to catch up on everyone else’s stories, see here.
What does body positivity mean to you?
It means being ok in your own skin. It means being able to look in a mirror and actually look at yourself and not turn away as soon as you have checked you look presentable. It means accepting your fat rolls, stretch marks and wrinkles.
Why does body positivity resonate with you and why do you feel it is important?
I have struggled my whole life with this issue and it is not a nice space to be. I have felt insecure in my own skin for as long as I can remember and it is actually unnecessary. My husband finds me insanely sexy (no really he does) and there was no reason for me to have carried that negativity with me for so long. I don’t want my children to feel like that and I don’t want other women to feel like that. We are all born different shapes – trying to look like someone who is a completely different shape to us is completely unrealistic and pointless.
What is your favourite part of your body?
My legs and my eyes!
What makes you feel confident?
Putting on an outfit I know I look good in. Sometimes it is as simple as a pair of jeans with a pretty top and other times it is a fancy pants dress.
Do you have a favourite pair of jeans, a lipstick shade or something special that gives you the confidence to conquer?
I have just bought a new pair of jeans after losing 7kg last year and the old ones literally falling off me. I LOVE THEM!!! They are skinny jeans, something I have never worn before and they look super sexy!
Who is your women-crush? (Celebrity, family member, friend, actress, etc.)
Gosh there are so many! I LOVE the character Olivia Pope, she always looks so put together. I also think Belinda (from Making Mountains) has an incredible dress sense, she always looks trendy.
Who inspires you?
Gosh I am not sure. I think I grab bits of inspiration from all the women I have in my life.
Is there anything that you wish you’d known, growing up, about self-love?
Everything! I wish I had known that a thigh gap would not determine my success despite what the cool kids said. I wish I knew I was ok just as I was. I wish I knew those extra few kg’s would not decide where I end up in life. Most importantly I wish I didn’t link my own self-worth to the opinions of a few people!
Thanks Laura for sharing your answers to this week’s body confidence interview. I have been reading your blog since the first time I ever saw you, at a Huggies event, almost 3 years ago, and am so happy to have you feature on the blog. I am sure many other moms, myself included, relate to changing their mindset in hopes of being a better role model to our kids, so that they don’t grow up stressing about their shape and sizes but rather embrace life and its journey. If you’d like to share your own story and answer the body positive questionnaire, then drop me a line at:editor[at]bymegankelly[dot]co[dot]za