When I was just 2-years old, my parents got divorced and my biological dad remained out of the picture, but I was fortunate enough to have someone step up to the plate, and be my dad. Sure, we don’t share the same last name, but there is never any doubt just how much he has done for me, by being there.
To celebrate Father’s Day, Pampers and I have partnered up to celebrate dads everywhere. So, here’s to the dads who wake up for the night feeds, the ones who aren’t scared to change nappies, or talk about boys with their daughters, here’s to the ones that celebrate their kids by being there, supporting them, encouraging them and helping with school projects. Here’s to your and my dad, who taught us life’s greatest lessons without even trying.
No sacrifice is too big
I have lost count of the times that my dad has chosen to go without, just so that my sister and I could have whatever we needed and more. There is never any doubt, that if needs be, he’d take the shirt off his back to clothe me. In fact, while typing this, I was reminded of the time that our tent collapsed because of a freak storm, while on holiday, and I woke up to him and my mom holding their arms up, trying to keep the tent from my face so that I’d sleep a little longer. When I woke up, they ushered me into the bakkie to sleep in a dry bed, while they watched the rest of our camp wash downstream.
Teenage heartbreak isn’t the end of the world
When I was about 17, I went through my first proper heartache, after I had broken up with a boy who I had been dating for 3 years. I always thought that we’d be the high school sweethearts who would make it, you know? My dad silently had his doubts, and when things had run its course, it was my dad who took me to dinner so that I could chat things out – he never laughed at the naivety or my ignorance, he listened and gave me his best advice, and when I did go ahead and end things, he was right there. Every morning, I’d wake up to a cup of coffee with a small reminder from my dad that I was loved. I remember going back to school, after the holidays, and everyone half-expecting me to be a wreck but I was completely okay and I’d like to think that it has a lot to do with how my dad supported me through that.
Parents just know
I had a good giggle recently when I realized that my dad just knew that Darren was the one for me. I’d love to know what gave him this impression at all, but after having only dated Darren for about 3-months, in the midst of my matric trials I moved out with the blessing of my parents. Not even a year later, my dad walked me down the aisle and handed me to my life partner.
There is no price on quality time
During my teen years, my dad lost his business and shortly after, we had all our belongings reprocessed, but he didn’t let that define us, instead, he used the time to build a stronger relationship with me. We made life our own adventure. We’d sometimes find ourselves stranded without petrol, so we kept UNO cards in the car, to play while we waited for help from someone. We rescued injured birds, that we would find in our neighborhood, after a windy night, and spent hours researching and nurturing them back to health. We would hire DVDs from the store and binge watch shows that I now know he had no interest in, but he’d happily watch with me for hours on end. From Vampire Diaries to One Tree Hill, he knew all the characters and the predictable story lines.
Best of all, he ALWAYS has time to teach me something new; whether it is cooking, fishing or maths. From the age of 3, he has been teaching me the alphabet, how to spell, my Roman numerals, times tables, and while homework would often end in tears, his discipline and clever way of teaching new things always meant that I would pass with 80’s and 90’s.
- No matter what happened, I’d do it again
I think that as parents, we often think back on certain events and how we could have done better and what we could have done differently. My life was less than perfect, but looking back, there is nothing I would change because it meant that I got to build a beautiful relationship with my dad, who is my rock and constant. When I am homesick and feeling blue, I know that I can count on him to crack a dad joke. When I need something fixed around the house, I add it to the list so that when he visits, I know that it will be fixed and left in a better condition than before. When I need the comforts of home, I know I can make his macaroni and cheese and while it is nowhere near to as good as his, it fills me with happiness making it, as I think back to the many nights he spent trying to teach me to cook.
Fathers don’t always get the recognition that they deserve but when I grew up and became a parent myself, I realized just how much my dad had invested in me, how much he loves and cares for me, and what a guiding force he has been.
Pampers is giving you the chance to win, this Father’s Day. To enter, all you have to do is follow the instructions in the Rafflecopter below.
(Competition opens on the 31st of May and closes on the 7th of June, winner(s) will be contacted via email and will have 48 hours to claim prize.)