14 Feb Tips for preparing your toddler for baby number 2
So as you probably know by now, we are expecting baby number two, who will be joining us sometime in June. With Axl, it was easy, considering that we are both adults who kind of, sort of (but didn’t really) know what to expect. However, this time around, we have a little boy to consider, and he is used to being mommy and daddy’s number 1. This week, I have partnered up with Pampers to share tips to prepare your child for the arrival of baby number 2.
1. Include them in the birth announcement – There will be a lot of attention and excitement when news breaks about the exciting arrival of a new baby, so try to include your toddler in the announcement. Some ideas include having a special shirt printed that says, “I am going to be a big brother/sister” and let them wear it to a family occasion, where you plan to break the news. Otherwise, organize a pregnancy announcement photo shoot and have your eldest hold up a sign or hold your tummy, with bold lettering announcing your pregnancy.
2. Bring them along to prenatal visits – This is somewhat tricky because it can be a little scary seeing mommy lying there and having the doctor run hundreds of checks. However, on days where you expect to just have a scan, or have booked for a 4D scan, be sure to bring your toddler with, and let him or see the baby. Axl isn’t really keen about prenatal visits and usually wants to leave as soon as we arrive, but he does love showing off the printed scan to everyone and will usually run around the waiting room, showing strangers our new baby.
3. Let them rub your tummy with oils and creams – We all know just how itchy our growing tummies can get, so give your toddler some tummy cream and let him rub your tummy. We usually use this time to chat about the baby, what his name will be, where he will sleep, which toys Axl will share with him and what their favourite games will be. It’s important to remind your toddler that the baby is in your tummy, so that he or she will understand that you won’t always be able to pick them up, run as fast or play as rough as you usually do.
4. Let your toddler shop for the baby – This can get a little crazy, so approach with caution. Your toddler is bound to notice the pile of new things that keep popping up, for the new baby. To stop any feelings of resentment from showing up, we’ve started to include Axl in on our shopping. We encourage him to pick out an outfit or blanket for baby Eli. Sometimes, we have to try encourage him to pick something more baby appropriate but for the most part, he enjoys being part of this special time.
5. Buy a gift for your toddler, from the baby – When baby arrives, it’s easy for everyone to get caught up in the joyous arrival of a new bundle but don’t forget to include your toddler in this exciting time, too. Buy him or her a special gift, wrap it up and say it’s a gift from the baby. Making a big deal over your toddler becoming a big brother or sister, makes it all the more special!
I’d love to know about your experience on preparing your toddler for their new baby sibling, what was the age difference and was there anything that you did to make it special?
I am Megan Kelly, the creator behind By Megan Kelly, mom of two boys, named Axl and Eli, and local business owner providing digital marketing solutions. I live on copious amounts of coffee, can be bribed with chocolate and will never admit to having too much makeup – although, I probably do.