A little while ago, I asked you to start sharing your stories in hopes of us learning to empower one another. The world can seem ridiculously lonely, especially when the voice inside your head keeps telling you that you can’t. The #BMKBucketList is my way of taking control of my insecurities and changing my biggest “I can’t” to “I will.” But now, I’d like to chat about you and what your experience with body positivity is. Starting this conversation proves that we all have a war going on inside our heads but with a little motivation, we can roar back at the negativity and learn to love and embrace our bodies.
This week, we’re chatting to Tami from TazzDiscovers, who interestingly faces the same struggles I think that a lot of us are facing (me, especially). She said that she wanted to take part despite not having a “body positive” story but that after years of teasing from the time she was a child, it’s hard to change the voices in your head to tell you more positive things when you look in the mirror.
If you’d like to catch up on everyone else’s stories, see here.
What does body positivity mean to you?
Body positivity means that you should make peace with the body you’ve been given. You only have one body so you should look after it. Don’t starve it, say mean things to it and spend your days wishing you were given a different one. Everyone is different and there isn’t just one body type or shape that is “acceptable” (no matter what the media tries to tell you).
Why does body positivity resonate with you and why do you feel it is important?
As a mom, it is so important to realize how much your children learn from you. Especially when you’re NOT teaching them. Every time you roll your eyes when you look in the mirror or voice your dissatisfaction, they hear it and will do the same. It doesn’t matter if you’re raising boys or girls. They are impressionable and will copy what you do.
What is your favorite part of your body?
I think I have nice feet 😉
What makes you feel confident?
Most days of the week, I don’t feel confident. But I have become an expert in faking it. And after faking it for a while, you start forgetting about your insecurities and you just get on with it. Fake it until you make it! Oh, and having a good hair day helps #CurlyHairDontCare
Do you have a favorite pair of jeans, a lipstick shade or something special that gives you the confidence to conquer?
They only thing that gives me the confidence to conquer my insecurities is when you realize that everyone is fighting a battle of one kind of another, no matter how perfect and confident they may look. No one has a perfect life. Even if they pretend that they do. It helps when you feel like you suck.
Who is your woman-crush? (Celebrity, family member, friend, actress, etc.)
I am surrounded by amazing, Christian women. They are authentic, honest, down to earth and real. If I start naming names I will forget someone. So I won’t. I hope they know who they are.
Who inspires you?
My mom, sister, kids, and my extended family. Some of them inspire me to be like them. Others inspire me to not be like them.
Is there anything that you wish you’d known, growing up, about self-love?
People who bully are really the ones who are insecure and hurting. Hurt people, hurt people. People who feel the need to point our your inadequacies are battling their own issues. Teasing and bullying have NOTHING to do with the victim, and everything to do with the bully.
Thanks Tami for sharing your answers to this week’s body confidence interview. I love seeing new people on here and being introduced to their stories and better yet, sharing them. I hope that through sharing your own stories, you will find the confidence in knowing that many others are fighting the same daily battles as you. If you’d like to share your own story and answer the body positive questionnaire, then drop me a line at: editor[at]bymegankelly[dot]co[dot]za