Every winter, I say it! I say that this will be the winter that I find a pair of boots that I love and adore and every winter, I find those boots and as I slip them on and think of all the things we’ll conquer together … it happens. My calves fail me and remind me that they’re as chunky as my thighs and that beautiful boots will never get to see the light of day, well… not worn by me, anyway.
Boots and jeans seem to be a winter staple, but do you know the struggle to find a pair of jeans that fit correctly? I mean, I got a big booty, thick thighs and a small waist, so finding jeans can be quite a challenging thing. So let’s just call it what it is – winter is meant to be filled with boots, jeans and woollen knits but are usually accompanied by track pants, tekkies and layers of unflattering sweat-shirts.
My Plus Size picks from Zando:
Top Row: Marie Claire Push Lock Quilted Bag Brown – R299, Utopia Plus Boxy T-Shirt Dress Navy – R219, Carlo Bossi Short Heeled Boots Brown – R499
Bottom Row: Utopia Plus Basic Leggings Grey – R149, Megalo Off the Shoulder Top Navy – R279, New Look Authentic Ripped Skinny Jeans Blue – R599
Then came along Zando. Remember how I mentioned that I discovered that they actually have an extensive range of beautiful and trendy Plus Size clothing? Well, Zando came on board as a sponsor of the #BMKBucketList challenge and sent me a voucher to conquer Winter’s annual struggle, of being a plus size girl. I browsed their site for a good few hours and fell in love over and over again, with their range which is truly committed to delivering the latest trends, collections from local designers and are inclusive of sizes, offering something for everybody.
I hadn’t even set out to find a pair of good fitting jeans, as I had given up on that dream a very long time ago. My wardrobe has changed over the years, and I usually opt for tights with dresses, long skirts, maxi dresses, etc. In other words, I do whatever I can to avoid the restraints of an ill-fitted pair of jeans, but looking through their Plus Size range, I found a pair that was designed for Curves. I mean, we’ve all seen those types of jeans, though, right? They’re usually really big around the waist, slip down constantly, or worse, cut your crotch in some unforgiving way. These looked great online, but it was only until they arrived that I was like Holy Shizz Balls!
The New Look Authentic Ripped Skinny Jeans in blue, retails for R599 on Zando and is worth every penny. In fact, I want one in every shade and style and would go as far as voluntarily wearing them every day. That’s a HUGE statement considering I prefer cotton sweats over denim 100% of the time, but this denim is so soft, flexible and well fitted that I am confidently comfortable to wear them all day, ev’ry day!
The fit is the best I have come across. The jeans sit nicely over my stomach, pulling everything in. Unlike any other pair of jeans, the waist is actually fitted and doesn’t constantly slip down while I walk. I love the traditional blue style with a touch of the modern trend, adding rips on each leg. Admittedly, I wasn’t quite prepared for that and had to master getting into them without putting my foot through the rip :’) The denim is elasticated so moulds to your shape and creating a gorgeous silhoutte.
I have paired my jeans with just about anything but the style that I am most excited about is of course… BOOTS! Guys, I found boots that I love and adore and am one step away from wearing them while I sleep. Yes, they’re that great. While shopping Zando‘s winter trends, there were many boots that I wanted, but instead of choosing the pair of black boots that appeared to be the “safe choice”, I decided to embrace this challenge and choose my very first pair of brown leather boots that even feature a heel. (OH! I don’t wear heels because I look like Godzilla about to take a city down, with one bad step).
I have always felt so held back when it came to exploring my fashion tastes and to be honest, I don’t even know what I like and don’t like because it’s always been a matter of what girls should and should not wear. I have no idea when it became the norm for society to tell us what we are allowed to wear or when it even became entertainment (shows like What not to Wear, etc.) but when I am in a changing room, it’s so hard to roar back at those voices telling me that patterns and stripes should be avoided, it’s tough to ignore the constant reminder that despite having a tummy, your dress should never show the outline of such tummy (unless you’re pregnant, because that’s totes acceptable by society, oh and society also finds it okay for strange people to rub your tummy while in public, in such instances).
I guess what I am trying to say, is that one of the lessons that I have learnt along this short journey, so far, is that a lot of this challenge is redefining the rules, to work with me. Jeans seem to be everyone’s favourite item of clothing but for me, it’s been avoided like the black plague. Finding a pair of boots, hasn’t been easy but now, I have a pair that will walk miles in a new journey where I am trying to be kinder, nicer and more forgiving.
Initially, these photos weren’t my all-time favourite but then I thought back to the moment. I wasn’t constantly stressing about whether I was pulling in my stomach or looking the right way. I was just talking to my cousin, who is the owner of Catagraphy. We were catching up on each other’s lives and in between that, she took photos. I didn’t feel the pressure to pose in a forgiving way, to change my silhouette from being anything but my own, I was comfortable and confident.
I feel that’s the best part of this journey is that I have learnt that sure, photos of my body might make others feel uncomfortable – but that’s their problem! Embracing me and my body doesn’t need justifying or to be followed up with an apology. I am me and I love that I see past the hundreds of things I only ever saw as flaws, I love that I am starting to acknowledge that there are things that I really like about myself. It’s a small step, in fact, most times it is a shuffle. But I am slowly getting there, making my way to a place where I am more accepting.
My Beauty picks from Zando:
Top Row: Revlon Ultimate All in One Mascara – R159, Revlon Colorstay Pressed Powder – R199
Bottom Row: Morgan Taylor MT Professional Nail Lacquer in Man of the Moment Red – R138, Revlon Love is On Fragrance – R399
Utopia Plus Boxy T-Shirt Dress Navy – R219
Carlo Bossi Short Heeled Boots Brown – R499
New Look Authentic Ripped Skinny Jeans Blue – R599
(Available from Zando)
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