03 Aug Your Stories: Lydia learns the real meaning of self-love
A little while ago, I asked you to start sharing your stories in hopes of us learning to empower one another. The world can seem ridiculously lonely, especially when the voice inside your head keeps telling you that you can’t. The #BMKBucketList is my way of taking control of my insecurities and changing my biggest “I can’t” to “I will.” But now, I’d like to chat about you and what your experience with body positivity is. Starting this conversation proves that we all have a war going on inside our heads but with a little motivation, we can roar back at the negativity and learn to love and embrace our bodies.
This week, we’re chatting to one of my closest friends, Lydia, who officially takes the spot of being the most featured human on this blog, other than me. Lydia, as I am sure you all already know, blogs over at Greenlydia. She is one of the most genuine people I have ever “met” and one day, when I eventually get to meet her for reals, I will leech onto her to thank her for all the support, encouragement and motivation she’s given me not only in this challenge but absolutely everything that I do. There is no one else I’d rather spend hours voice noting.
If you’d like to catch up on everyone else’s stories, see here.
What does body positivity mean to you?
Quite literally what it says: Being positive about your body, whatever the shape might be.
Why does body positivity resonate with you and why do you feel it is important?
You see, in highs school I was the DUFF (Yes it is totally a real thing) Just like most girls I had a guy best friend. From the age of ten all the way to the last year of school. Turns out all he wanted was my hot little blonde friend. The other two girls who I had around me were the girls pretty much everyone wanted to be with. But I was the one who was easy to talk to. I was their way in. The thing is, I didn’t have an issue with my weight. I had an issue with the way I looked and there isn’t much that can be done about that. I wanted to be tall and leggy like my one friend, or short and cute with beautiful eyes like the other one. It wasn’t until early 20’s where I stopped caring. I was the one who was easy to talk to, the one who had interesting things to say, I made people laugh and all of a sudden I realized I would rather be pretty smart, than pretty.
What is your favourite part of your body?
My boobs. Like I have reallllllyyyyyyy nice cleavage. More girls should like their boobs. Boobs are awesome.
What makes you feel confident?
A good hair day for sure.
Do you have a favourite pair of jeans, a lipstick shade or something special that gives you the confidence to conquer?
I have a pair of shoes. Maroon Supergas. They are my “I can do anything” shoes.
Who is your woman-crush? (Celebrity, family member, friend, actress, etc.)
MEGAN KELLY BOTHA – Truly inspiring in every way possible. Let me break it down.
Health – You got curves sponsorship after what can be described as a thesis of work. You get SO excited about gym it makes me put on some tekkies and go for a walk even when it’s freezing. Because if Megan can do it so can I.
Work – You work 2 full time jobs both based in different time zones. Your work ethic is inspiring. You would decline a Friday night braai with friends because you have work to do (even when no one ever checks up on you) You kill it every single day and you should be damn proud of what you have accomplished without any formal training. You make me work harder.
Creativity – Your #365beautytips is the coolest campaign around your endless enthusiasm for your spectacular blog makes me want to be a better writer.
I just adore you all round.
P.S. I didn’t pay her to say this, and only read it the night before I posted this. Lyds, I have no idea what I did to deserve this friendship – thank you!
Who inspires you?
Well not who, rather what.
Coffee. Gin. Wine. Beer. Podcasts 😉
Is there anything that you wish you’d known, growing up, about self-love?
I wish someone told me that self-love means more than masturbation. Makes A LOT more sense now.
P.S. I spat coffee out, reading that!
As always, thank you Lyds for being so willing to share your view on things. I struck gold when I found this friendship. If you’d like to share your own story and answer the body positive questionnaire, then drop me a line at: editor[at]bymegankelly[dot]co[dot]za