A little while ago, I asked you to start sharing your stories in hopes of us learning to empower one another. The world can seem ridiculously lonely, especially when the voice inside your head keeps telling you that you can’t. The #BMKBucketList is my way of taking control of my insecurities and changing my biggest “I can’t” to “I will.” But now, I’d like to chat about you and what your experience with body positivity is. Starting this conversation proves that we all have a war going on inside our heads but with a little motivation, we can roar back at the negativity and learn to love and embrace our bodies.
This week, we’re chatting to Jocelyn from Humble Pie. When I asked her why she wanted to be part of this challenge, she said,”In the personal writing that I do for my blog, Humble Pie, woman’s issues are very close to my heart. We are so bombarded with notions of beauty. It’s a billion dollar industry preying on our insecurities, insecurities that are manifested and exploited by the beauty world. It becomes so easy to forget that we are made of magic. And while there’s no harm in self-expression, we are so much more than what we wear or how we do our hair. We are fierce. We are loving. We are bold. We are larger than life. And there’s no time like the present to celebrate that!”
What does body positivity mean to you?
For me, it’s about celebrating so-called imperfection. All those little idiosyncrasies are what makes each one of us so unique.
Why does body positivity resonate with you and why do you feel it is important?
Three years ago, I was diagnosed with bipolar and after my manic episode, I experienced six months of severe depression. I gained weight. Initially, the meds thinned my hair (it would literally come out in chunks in my comb leaving me in tears!). Working towards a space of acceptance and self-love became integral to my getting better. And it’s just as integral today.
What is your favourite part of your body?
I have a strange fascination with feet. And an aversion to shoes. So I’d have to go with my feet. If I could I’d go barefoot all day long!
What makes you feel confident?
Soft fabrics. I love textures like silk or velvet or soft cotton on my skin. I’m all about sensory pleasure (which is probably why I’m such a foodie!). And I’m no different when it comes to my wardrobe.
Do you have a favourite pair of jeans, a lipstick shade or something special that gives you the confidence to conquer?
I’m a big believer in what a little spritz of perfume can do. From season to season, I deliberate for days over which perfume to try next! It’s the one thing that never ceases to make me feel like a million bucks… And when I really need to up the stakes, out comes my creamy Chanel red lipstick!
Who is your woman-crush? (Celebrity, family member, friend, actress, etc.)
Celebrity wise, I’d have to say, Jennifer Lawrence. She’s not afraid to tackle unconventional roles or have a good laugh in interviews, sometimes at her own expense. There’s no pretense. In real life, I’d have to say my grandmother is a total force of nature. She’s the matriarchal glue holding our whole family together.
Who inspires you?
My mom. She’s danced to her own tune and made a real success of her life as an artist with a lot of hard graft and grit. Being your own boss and promoter is no easy task, as I’ve learnt in the business of freelance writing. But she reminds me it can be done if you’re determined enough.
Is there anything that you wish you’d known, growing up, about self-love?
I think if anything, a lot of times I try and find inspiration in who I was growing up. A lot of the insecurities I have today have come with age. When I was younger, I had a truer and more unapologetic sense of who I was and what I wanted from the world and wasn’t afraid to go after it. So I try to keep her in mind in the life choices I make today… That strange and dreamy child who believed she was capable of anything.
I really loved hearing Jocelyn’s story and can’t thank her enough for being part of this series. If you’d like to share your own story and answer the body positive questionnaire, then drop me a line at: editor[at]bymegankelly[dot]co[dot]za