It’s the first official week of 2016 and the perfect time to reevaluate life, wave goodbye to the bad and welcome in the fresh, crisp new year with hope that it will be kinder, better and full of victories – both big and small. Let me start by saying that I don’t believe in resolutions and with a success rate of barely 8% it seems that most people set unrealistic resolutions, for the new year, half expecting to fail at them. For the last 3 or 4 years, I have consciously set goals at the beginning of each year and every few months have taken a recap on how close I am to achieving those goals. Sometimes they’re tiny, silly little ideas, while others are bigger and more difficult to achieve, but man – I do love ticking something off my list and revel in the accomplished feeling that comes with it!
This year, I was truly stumped on what I wanted for the new year. 2015 had been tough on my family and me – it was filled with many hard lessons, loss of material things like our family car, medical aid and the loss of my husband’s income but it packed a few treasures too and with everything going wrong around us, I learnt to appreciate even the smallest of things.
I feel like 2015 was very much about me finding my footing in the professional world. Though I had already been working at my current job, for close to 2 years, it was the first time that I had been given my own department and was able to put in new systems that worked for me. My sales saw new highs and is running more efficiently than ever before, something that I take great pride in! Blogging also became more of a professional gig and by the end of the year, I felt comfortable and confident in my role as a blogger.
Some like to sum up their year in a single word that best describes the overall feeling or lesson taken from the year, that has just passed. If you had to ask me, mine would be “value”. In 2015, I learnt to value my time, myself and the people around me. I let go of the negative-Nellies, who swarmed my life and didn’t really deserve my time, emotions or would generally set me in a flat-spin of anxiety. I also learnt to say no to the “opportunities” that presented themselves without any real payback. I learnt the value of hard work, the value of parenting the way that works for me (and not by the book) and the value of precious time because before you know, it’s gone in a flash.
But still, what do I want from the new year?
This year, I want to learn to bet on myself every now and then. I rely so much on the people around me for their acceptance and to tell me that I am going to rock something, instead of just believing in myself and knowing that I can. My uncertainty varies in all degrees and it can be something as small as what I am wearing or the shade of lipstick that I chose, picking my favourite chocolate or making decisions like which course I should take. It can become a heavy weight to carry, when I find myself doing things that I have no interest in or wearing clothes that don’t make me feel completely fabulous. I want to explore me: my likes, my dislikes and everything in between but most of all, I want to learn to believe in myself and that when the opportunity arises, to bet on myself.
Nothing strikes me more than someone who is confident and sure of themselves. I don’t judge a person by their weight, race, gender, etc. but I am immediately drawn to people who have the confidence to be themselves – it’s something that I wish could identify in myself and something that I am eager to find, this year.
Sure, I have hundreds of other dreams and goals that I am hoping to achieve this year. January and February will see me completing a diploma in Social Media Marketing and Digital Marketing. I have also submitted several articles for other websites and will be taking on the new task of writing a business-orientated blog for our sister-company which fabricates gaming trailers. At the moment, I am also starting to put together a few ideas for a Plane-Tastic birthday party for my gorgeous son, who turns two in February. Overall, I want to work on improving our health and diet, choosing a few things that I feel are important and focus on growing and nurturing those aspects, in my life.
2016 may not have had the greatest start (chest infection – oh joy!) but I can only hope that it is going to be one for the books.