Firstly, a big happy new years to everyone. I cannot believe how quickly the year has passed by, I mean in less than 2 months we’ll be celebrating Axl’s first birthday! Incase you missed it, I did a little break down of 2014, the things that happened that I never thought would, the hopes for this year and more. Also, you should check out my latest post on Beauty Blog where I’ll be telling you how you can win each month, this year, to thank my most loyal readers. AND… A quick note that I have started a new Facebook page, please go like it for updates and more!
And now, what’s been up and happening.
I’ve taken a little blogging break to spend time with family. December has been hectic, from the day that D has gone on holiday, we’ve been busy every day. I’m starting to crave a binge series kinda day.
It’s been so awesome to introduce Axl to family who live far and wide. We managed to visit Darren’s cousins, who stay in Sandton, at their holiday home in Plett. They have 2 kids, a princess perfect little girl and the cutest 22 month old boy who passes all his clothes onto Axl. I’ve only ever met this side of the family on one other occasion which was 2 years ago but everytime that I’ve seen them, we hit it off. I really enjoy the company of moms who have been there, they understand those mini-meltdown moments. I honestly believe that the biggest lessons learnt this holiday are…
1. It takes a village to raise a child
I never really understood this expression until Anita, Darren’s cousin, said it and it resonated with me. We all impact the children in our lives, whether they’re our own or they’re our nieces, nephews, god children or cousins. Kids soak up everything that they encounter just like a sponge and they depend on us to guide them, mould them and teach them what is wrong and right. I acknowledge that we all have different parenting styles but I think we all underestimate how our actions can affect our children in the long run. Lead by example, even if it’s not your own children, one day you will have your own and you will completely understand how much that parent is relying on you to be the best version of you!
With that being said, I’ve been questioning myself – or my actions – a lot lately. I recently informed my mom of my sister who is 11 years old, being allowed to consume alcohol whilst in the care of another family member. My sister thought that I was the grinch who stole Christmas when I told her mom. I haven’t processed it all just yet, but I think what surprises me the most is that family members have turned their back on the very people trying to protect these children. I’ve been wondering if this could have all been avoided by shutting up but after taking time, I have come to the conclusion that in actual fact, it couldn’t have been avoided. I’m a firm believer in the truth always coming out but this also brings me back to “it takes a village to raise a child.” Someone has got to lookout for those children and I was protecting my sister above all.
2. Mommy friends are the best kind
I’ve been privileged to be around all sorts of people this December and it’s been tough to accommodate each one! Some cannot stand the sign of a mom breastfeeding, while others blurt out, “oh you doing that here.” Some will think that Axl is being a handful because he can’t be packed away and put back on a shelf when it suits them and then, there are the mommies who just get it.
You have no idea the comfort that comes with the words, “there are wipes and cream in the room, you can change and feed him there.” Especially when it feels like you’ve spent an entire day apologising for your child being a child. To be upfront, Axl is a very well behaved baby and if you happen to catch him on a bad day, I can bet my bottom dollar it’s the fact that he is cutting 5 teeth at the same time. He is 10 months old and being a boy means the need to explore and learn new things. He doesn’t like to be held and carried, he is independent. And breastfeeding, don’t even get me started! What it comes down to is, my boobs are a source of nutrients for my child and just as you wouldn’t want to be covered or to be served food in a nasty-smelling bathroom, neither does my child. When you’ve been breastfeeding, you no longer see your boobs as an object of sexual desire, it is your baby’s greatest comfort, a bond between mother and child and something that I don’t expect you to understand, until having done it yourself. But I do expect you to respect me. No, I won’t just pull my boob out in the middle of lunch, but if I turn my back to you, to put my kid to sleep instead of having a teary, over-tired baby, don’t give me that look.
Realizing the importance of mommy-friends, I am even more determined to hold mom’s meetups more frequently, this year. But I am at the point where I don’t even think that every single one has to be an extravagant affair, that requires months of planning with goodie bags and all, some could just be a nice meetup at the petting zoo for our children to interact and meet one another. Let me know what you think? (P.S. I am in PE!)